Self Celebration (Part 1)
“You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere”
“You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, yoursimple presence can make others happy”
For myself, I believe self-acceptance means genuinely loving myself enough to always adhere to communicating with honesty and logic, with anyone whom I communicate with. I aim to always do this, even when it scares the hell out of me and do not want to because it will wreck some (or all) of a dream world that I have possibly built around myself. Even when it makes me feel incredibly weak and vulnerable.
In my eyes, a characteristic of someone who truly wants to love themselves, as well as others, is that they will willingly accept others valid criticisms of them if those criticisms are founded on solid logic. They will do this even if it makes them feel ashamed and wrong about whatever they have done, because their ultimate aim is to understand and love themselves and others, completely.
They will not avoid answering logical questions, or debating logical deductions that have been presented to them, even if in their answer, they must necessarily profess that they are incorrect. They will understand that to avoid doing so is to reject facing their fears and instead, is a sign of giving into insecurity.
Ultimately, I elevate my soul/spirit above that of my body, my looks, my possessions. It is the idea that without the material world and my body, I am still completely myself, still unique and beautiful as a bare soul. As every other soul out there is.
This is what I personally believe true self-acceptance is.
To me, this necessarily follows that anyone who uses their worldly possessions, their own aesthetic qualities and their I.Q, as traits to put forward that they are a secure and confidant individual, has a negative and false belief of what self-acceptance is.
To cut it down I would say that:
“Self-acceptance is when you are no longer stopped by personal feelings, from experiencing and learning from the world”
To me, it is most probable that the main feelings that stop this learning from happening for many people, are the ones of fear and insecurity that originate from false beliefs that have been injected into them by their surroundings.
I must say that false beliefs are ones that, by their nature, separate us from finding our true souls/spirits and from truly loving ourselves and one another.
As I believe that currently, majority of humanity holds these false beliefs, making these beliefs the most comfortable ones to adopt and live by, though they are inherently destructive for us.
That’s why identifying these false beliefs are one of the first steps to overcoming them.
Its basically being loving and happy with who you are NOW. Some call it self-esteem, others self-love, but whatever you call it, you’ll know when your accepting yourself cause it feels great. Its an agreement with yourself to appreciate, validate, accept and support who you are at this very moment, even those parts you’d like to eventually change. This is important…even those parts you’d eventually like to change. Yes, you can accept (be okay with) those parts of yourself you want to change some day.
~A spoken word is a moment. A written word is eternal~