Comparison is the thief of JOY

Dearest Natives & Friends,

This truly is one of the main mistakes we do go through A LOT and we barely do know how much it can strike back at us without even thinking it’s that repelling and problematic.

 

“Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.” 

 

 

We all do it or have done it at some point in our lives: we compare ourselves to others and gauge where we are based on what we observe them to be doing.

If this was simply an observation, that would be one thing, but in comparing ourselves to others, we often end up judging ourselves.  There’s no one worse to judge!

If you have ever noticed, it doesn’t matter how many people are on your side, cheering you on. If you can’t get on your own side, you never get past “go”.

The thing about comparison is that there is never a win. How often do we compare ourselves with someone less fortunate than us and consider ourselves blessed? More often, we compare ourselves with someone who we perceive as being, having or doing more.

And this just leaves us coming up short.

But our minds do want to quantify. Our minds want to rank and file and organize information. Our mind wants to know where we fit into the scheme of things. So we need to give it something to do.

So, instead of training it to stop comparing altogether, why not simply redirect the comparison to a past and a present self—and keep the comparison within?

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We are always becoming more. Who you are today is a result of the decisions you made yesterday. We are always in a state of creation. We decide and then we decide again, and the direction is always toward expansion. It is our human nature to expand.

So, when you catch yourself comparing yourself to another, stop for a moment and re-direct the thought. Instead of submitting to the temptation to compare yourself to someone else, ask yourself a few questions, instead.

What are you doing today that you couldn’t have done 5, 3 or even 1 year ago? How have you stepped out in the last year that you might have found inconceivable before?

What new decisions have you made or what new actions have you taken that have resulted in you moving in a new direction in your life?

What are your wins this year, compared to last year at this time? How has your life improved? How have you improved? What have you done recently that you never thought you could do?

 

 

What negative behavior have you stopped engaging in, that you never thought you could quit? What positive behavior have you been engaging in that up until now, you have resisted?

How are you doing more of what you said you were going to do and shown up more consistently for your own success?

In other words, how have you continued to become a new and improved version of yourself?

That’s the stuff that counts. Comparing ourselves with someone else is an inaccurate and irrelevant measuring stick.

Think about the faulty logic. Take, for example, an introvert (keeps emotion inside) who feels energized after periods of solitude. What does she get by comparing herself to an outspoken, outgoing personality who gets bored by an hour alone with herself?

What kind of illogical conclusions can she come to by this comparison?

Take any one of our continuous comparisons and question the logic. Most are completely irrational in their reasoning.

We all came in different. We all came in with certain intentions that through life experience, we have continued to hone. In fact, the only masterful creation we have to work with is ourselves.

So, why defame it?

Michelangelo said “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.”

How well we do this is our measurement.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing with their block of stone. The statue that they are liberating is one of their own intentions.  But how well we are doing with our own block of stone is our business.

And we must tend to it with honor, care, compassion, and praise.

Because when we have allowed for more expression this year than we have in the last, and more importantly we recognize it, than we can stand taller as a result of the comparison, instead of diminished by it.

That makes more sense. Doesn’t it?

And if it doesn’t then do take a look at this,

If you stop comparing yourself to others you’ll:

  1. Begin to discover what’s truly important to you.
  2. Have more time and energy to devote to your own creative journey.
  3. Feel FAR better about yourself.
  4. Suffer far less from those energy draining feelings of jealousy and inadequacy
  5. Be able to be inspired by others’ work rather than dragged down by it.

 

Try it!! It worked for me and Definitely can work as well for you 😉

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~A spoken word is a moment. A written word is eternal~

Moe Ash

 

 

 

Article Sources:

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People: 5 Effective Tips over on The Positivity Blog
Creating a Life Worth Living by Carol Lloyd. Good advice and exercises to help you get your life into the right shape for you.
Never Too Late: My Musical Life Story by John Holt. My favourite inspirational story about how one man learns to follow his dream.

 

 

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