Living up to your expectations
Did you know that 2 out of 3 people in the world have low self-esteem and a lack of self-worth? This is a huge issue. Everyone at some point in their life has experienced low self-esteem.
Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself — how you honestly feel about your abilities and limitations. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving the respect of others. When you have low self-esteem, you put little value on your opinions and ideas. You might constantly worry that you aren’t “good enough.”
Low self-esteem. When you have low or negative self-esteem, you put little value on your opinions and ideas. You focus on your perceived weaknesses and faults and give scant credit to your skills and assets. You believe that others are more capable or successful. You might be unable to accept compliments or positive feedback. You might fear failure, which can hold you back from succeeding at work or school.
Healthy self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem lies between these two extremes. It means you have a balanced, accurate view of yourself. For instance, you have a good opinion of your abilities but recognize your flaws. When you understand your own worth, you invite the respect of others.
Benefits of healthy self-esteem. When you value yourself and have good self-esteem, you feel secure and worthwhile and have generally positive relationships with others. You feel confident about your abilities and tend to do well at school or work. You’re also open to learning and feedback, which can help you acquire and master new skills.
Well, here are some techniques to help you conquer this.
1. Acknowledge that you have these negative thoughts. Don’t ignore them. Without 1st acknowledging these thoughts, you won’t be able to change them. It’s just like someone who maybe experiencing an addiction. The 1st step is to accept that you have the addiction.
2. Remember when you 1st felt this way. You may have 1st felt this way because of something that was said to you when you were a child or when you were in school or even at work or between your close peers. If you’re able to remember when you 1st experienced these negative thoughts, this can help you get a better understanding of what’s causing them.
3. Fill yourself up with self-love, acceptance, and approval. Imagine that you have a cup. Many people seek attention from others, and they are desperate for others to fill up their cup. In other words, they look to other people for acceptance, love, and approval. If you give yourself enough acceptance, you won’t need it from anyone else. You’ll be able to fill up your cup all by yourself.
Here’s a powerful exercise to help you: For 40 days straight, at the end of each day, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself all the positive things you did that day. Don’t take anything for granted. Give yourself credit for all of your accomplishments like helping someone, putting a smile on someone’s face, spending time with your children, and more. This is a great way to fill yourself up with love, acceptance, and approval.
4. Make a list of all the things you like about yourself and recite this list everyday. It could be a list of positive affirmations. Always remember that the words “I am” are two of the most powerful words in the English language. Here are some examples:
I am intelligent.
I am giving, and caring.
I am kind.
I am attractive.
I am worthy.
I am courageous.
I am exuding self-confidence.
5. Write down all of your accomplishments. Give yourself credit for all of the successes you’ve had in your life (like making the a good deed, graduating from with a good grade, having children, raising your children, purchasing a home, opening a business, getting a promotion, helping out a friend in need, etc). Everyone has more successes in their lives than failures, but our brains naturally focus on the failures. So, build your self-confidence right now by acknowledging all of your successes in life (no matter how big or how small).
Now Look at the mirror and repeat after me……...I’m AWESOME! 😀
~A spoken word is a moment. A written word is eternal~